I think I am taking a day off today. Monday is sunday for me today. I have been up for almost 4 hours now (Yes, I know it is 18.00 already) but I haven’t done a single thing. I even didn’t manage it yet to read all my feeds yet. Over at IT2M there was a blog reviewed. The blogger was ‘upset’ because PP commented on her ‘having 5 kids’ rather than reviewing her blog. That post and the comments got a little (too much) of my time today. I can’t concentrate on coding now, even not after 3 coffees.
Let’s ‘analyze’ everything once more. She is 20 and writes about herself ::
Twenty years old. Married. Mum to four fantastic kids and one more on the way. Creative. Bored. Recently diagnosed as bipolar and with a personality disorder. Just plain crazy. Sarcastic. Satirical. Moody. Different from one day to the next.
OK. I think she would better go for some help and be put on birth control. My dear, we are living 2006. Kids aren’t your pension anymore. You are luckily married (at least I hope you are) today. What about tomorrow?
I work hard and in my last job I paid 53% taxes. I didn’t mind paying for non-finished roads or to have Tony Blair his house paid. I don’t mind paying taxes because I do love the social system and want every kid to enjoy a proper education.
But if one day you get divorced, which can happen nowadays within 24 hours, what’s up that day? Who will pay for your kids? Ex-hubby, yes but only depending on his lawyers. Me? I would fucking make sure you don’t get your kids (re-read the about quote if needed). Above all you‘re only 20 and ‘mum’ already. Have you already found yourself?
Honestly what future do you have to offer your kids nowadays? I can think of many mums in the US working 10+ hours daily to feed one single kid. Even without being nuts. Probably this kid will get mobbed at school because mum is ‘too poor’. In the evenings mum is exhausted and would love to offer the kid a Playstation/XBox/whatevah to have a break.
But having 5 of them. Aren’t there already enough of unemployed people on our planet. I mean most companies are evolving to new deontologies :: less employees who can do more (have more capabilities) and who DO more. So basically less employees needed. Less moms needed as well to work at the help desk, because one person can work with a bluetooth headset and 3 automated questions let the phone central immediately direct the call to the appropriate division.
Basically I just think that kids, as much as I do like kids, deserve a lot and the decision to have kids should be made by a ‘responsible brain’. If you’re ‘nuts’, only 20 and have 4 (are waiting for number 5) you are a dumb and irresponsible woman. You also have to expect people criticizing you for that. Sorry hon but you are just a whiney fucking cow. May I advice you to stick a dildo up your ass and not to use that ‘real thing’ anymore for a while. Or at least only take it up the ass and nowhere else. More I predict you a nervous breakdown in the next years and honestly I really fear for your kids. You are 20, nuts and proud of it. Not a worthy mum if you ask me.
Oh btw I don’t have kids (at least not that I am aware off). The reason for this was that kids were ‘not compatible’ with my lifestyle and I want to be there for them and not work in bars, love to party and shit like that. Ten years ago, when I was 20, I already thought like that. And I DO love kids.
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1 team gingerbread // Apr 3, 2006 at 6:07 pm// View all comments by team gingerbread//
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Well said.
2 Geeky Dragon Girl // Apr 3, 2006 at 6:28 pm// View all comments by Geeky Dragon Girl//
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People who have more than 3 kids just make me ill. WHY do they need so many? How can each kid possibly get the attention they need in order to develop into a functional (read that “not fucking psychotic”) adult? I don’t care how much they love kids. Unless you’re saving a child by adopting it out of a hostile environment, you are just being irresponsible.
3 Miss Ann Thrope // Apr 3, 2006 at 6:28 pm// View all comments by Miss Ann Thrope//
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I completely agree with you…and then some.
4 Dawn (webmiztris) // Apr 3, 2006 at 7:37 pm// View all comments by Dawn (webmiztris)//
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I would have suggested she get her tubes tied STAT, but I supposed shoving a dildo up her ass is a viable solution too… lol
5 Tracy // Apr 3, 2006 at 7:52 pm// View all comments by Tracy//
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Totally agree with your thoughts on this one. I just can’t imagine. And to only have 1 income and not a great one at that… it’s crazy!!
6 Jessica // Apr 3, 2006 at 9:05 pm// View all comments by Jessica//
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Listen Up Asshole. If you don’t know the whole story don’t criticize her. You don’t know what this poor woman has been through. 2 Words. Fuck off! And she’s a wonderful Mother. Her life’s a fucking living hell Give her a break! People like you should be Shot. You don’t go around telling people they’re a fucking Cow. Maybe She can support her children and loves them to death. Ever thought maybe she is just a little too hard on herself sometimes? She has enough stress without assholes like you on her back.
7 Franky // Apr 3, 2006 at 9:11 pm// View all comments by Franky//
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Cry me a fucking river. She had in 1999/2000 the guts to take a dick up in her without using condoms. She was ONLY 14! She did the same even 3 times more. And I, who pay taxes for her, am not allowed to say what I want.
If her life is that bad, well maybe she shouldn’t write such an ‘about me’. Crying out how crazy she is. She is nuts, her blog is the proof of it. She is dumb as well.
Cry me a fucking river once more. Oh and before I forget, fuck off k.
8 Franky // Apr 3, 2006 at 10:04 pm// View all comments by Franky//
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team gingerbread :: thanks.
GDG :: Good point you got there. I guess 3 is alerady ‘a mess’ why need more.
A classmate of mine and his sister werre adopted Koreans. The family got 2 more kids after them. Their father was a university professor in Belgium and their mother stayed at home. They honestly admitted 4 was too much for them. Too much of work especially once they got 7 and older…
Miss Ann :: curious about the ‘then some’
Dawn :: yeah I think she should still be allowed to experience some fun. Especially since she seems to be very sex focused. Dunno but guess that is compulsary when you get 5 kids or?
Tracy :: I agree with you. I earned more in my last job (after taxes, I hope her number was after taxes as well) and still wouldn’t consider more than 2 kids with that wage. I like to be able to afford myself, my partner and my family sometimes some luxury, even when those things are not that important in life but a good meal/day out can be really enjoyable. I can hardly think of living without that.
9 suki // Apr 4, 2006 at 2:51 am// View all comments by suki//
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In certain parts of the States, having more than 3 kids is actually seen as normal. To each their own, I guess. As long as they are capable of supporting all those kids, then I have nothing to say about that… because some people like having lots of kids, which is fine. But if you can’t take care of ‘em, or are freakin’ crazy, then I would suggest you not have so many - you’re subjecting so many babies (innocent minds) to your crazy self… Not ideal.
10 Sarah // Apr 4, 2006 at 6:24 am// View all comments by Sarah//
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You’ve seen most my thoughts on the IT2M post but just wanted to say I agree with your response to Jessica.
I got pregnant at 16, luckily I was mature enough to take responsibilty and learn from it. I have read quite a bit of the blog in question (which was pretty hard work) and if I had given birth to twins at 16 let alone 14 it would not have encouraged me to try again 2 years later with a guy I already knew was an idiot. I am sorry for what she has been through but at the end of the day she made the choice to keep having sex and to put herself (ie not wanting to be lonely) before the safety of her kids (both unborn and born). Trust me I know what it is like to be lonely, I hate to mention it because I don’t like having this as a label but I am a forces wife and we know loneliness.
I agree that there is nothing wrong with having 5 kids, hey if you happen to be fertile enough to have quintets you’re gonna love ‘em all and cope with it, but the more I hear about this blog the more I think in this case it is not a good thing. I really hope that when the kids are grown up this woman has a life of her own or is even able to cope with that idea because one day they are gonna fly the nest (so to speak) and if all you’ve ever known is being a mum then its gonna be an extremely lonely time.
I also have to ask how does she have time to blog? What with having a kid of my own, a part time job, helping hubby run the kids footie league, preventing my kid sitting in front of the TV all day and spending time with my family I grab what time I can to blog in the evenings (or like now when the house is quiet and I’m meant to be doing the hoovering :-) ) I presume when my next one is born in Sept I’ll have to cut down the blog writing even more for a while. I just don’t think if I had 5 kids I would fit it all in a day!
Wow, I apologise for the length of this comment, man, I could talk for England lol!
11 Kentucky Girl // Apr 4, 2006 at 6:57 am// View all comments by Kentucky Girl//
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Fucking bitch. I only want ONE. *eats chocolate*
12 Sarah // Apr 4, 2006 at 7:26 am// View all comments by Sarah//
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Can I just add in response to Jessica: You say “Her life’s a fucking living hell Give her a break!” but the main reasons her life is a living hell is because of the pregnancys and the many children she is having. Not to mention that when she blogged about her life (especially in so much detail)and then submitted it for a review at IT2M she left her self open to comments from people like ourselves. What was she expecting?
Oh my god I just read more…she cuts her self too (I’m guessing maybe a symptom of her psycological problems) but what a great role model for her kids she is!
13 Franky // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:02 am// View all comments by Franky//
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Now here’s the funny part. Not only is she mother of 4 kids, dumb as hell because she still hasn’t learned to use preservatives, she’s even more of a whiny bitch as we thought and shows that here. Oh she has time to maintain a second blog & blogfriends as well.
Suki :: Actually I don’t mind. Everyone has to know for themselves, but read a little at her blog and be amazed.
Sarah :: (don’t mind for the long answers) Yes I read quiet a little at her blog before I wrote this and honestly I even think this mother should be taken away from her kids. At least for the time to learn to deal with her auto-mutulation. I am glad you read that.
I think ’shit happens’ can happen to everyone, but at least you ‘learned’ from it. I am sure even teen mums can be good mums. I just think her case is ’slightly’ different. 35k GBP, no fucking way I would raise 5 kids with only that money. As for 5 kids I hope anyone having 5, more or less, kids will give them all the love and anything they deserve. It were to risky for me in those days. Btw my girlfriend also said ‘No Fucking Way I am gonna have 5 kids’.
*slips KG some Kit Kats*
14 Sarah // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:16 am// View all comments by Sarah//
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Had to mention this:
One of the comments (on her post that you have linked to above) says ” Let’s make them have 5 babies and see how they feel”. So who exactly MADE this woman have 5 kids?
(Btw, your girlfriend sounds like a sensible woman :-))
15 Biologisvensk // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:18 am// View all comments by Biologisvensk//
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I’ve worked with kids since I was 12, babysitting, then teaching pre-school, then even running the children’s programme at my old church. I LOVE children, but I also loved sending them home to their parents at the end of the day. There is a reason why one is the adult and one is the child: children are a HUGE responsibility, a longterm commitment. There is no way they are getting the love and attention they need, and with their ages so close together, they’ve really got to be stressing her out. She’s crazy? No wonder, she’s totally stretched to her limit, and being pregnant while trying to take care of them has got to be difficult. She’s already had the four, and the fifth one is on the way…there is nothing she can do about that. What she CAN do is prevent a sixth. Birth control and tubal ligation are wonderful innovations, and it would be something worth investing in to ensure that her 5 children do get all the love and attention they need, and that they can figure out to afford them before getting even more stretched financially with a sixth…a seventh…an eigth..and she’s only 20? Man, she’s got at least an 18 year long commitment ahead of her. If she doesn’t get the birth control/tubal ligation for herself, she should at least do it for her children to where they have a chance to get their mother’s love and care. Quit blogging and start parenting.
*snags the kit-kats on Franky’s desk as well as the bottle of Tanqueray and streaks off to bed* :-P
16 Franky // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:32 am// View all comments by Franky//
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Sarah :: It was me, and no fucking way I want 5 of them. As for my girlfriend, at the beginning they all sound sensible don’t they? :P
Bio :: she wants even more of them, probably to lose her last admirers at myspace. Yes she has a myspace as well.
17 Biologisvensk // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:43 am// View all comments by Biologisvensk//
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Oh dear dog NOOOOO not a Satan Space….nooooooo.
The dreams I’m going to be having tonight are not going to be good. Fucking thanks alot. Bastard. Sir.
18 Sarah // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:46 am// View all comments by Sarah//
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lol Franky!
“Quit blogging and start parenting.” Well said Bio! Talking of which, time for me to go do some parenting :-)
19 Franky // Apr 4, 2006 at 9:52 am// View all comments by Franky//
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Oh and to make it all funnier, ‘Jessica’ who was that ‘furious’ here is 14, likes Daniel Radcliffe and collecting bandanas and is at Pleasant Valley Middle School.
Find her blog here.
Nahnah Jessica. Let me give you a ‘definition’ for ‘Fuck off’. How can I ‘fuck off’ and ‘leave that woman alone’ if I even didn’t comment at her blog. I hope one day you will have 5 kids, you should start now like nadia did at the age of 14, and let’s speak again when you are 30.
20 Croaker // Apr 5, 2006 at 5:14 pm// View all comments by Croaker//
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I saw that blog and wanted to do the math too. I have three kids and I know what it takes to raise them. 5 at twenty that is wrong and if you put it out on the web expect fucking criticism. You didn’t blog it on the world wide hugs group.
21 Franky // Apr 5, 2006 at 5:37 pm// View all comments by Franky//
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Croaker glad to read your comment. You are experienced in the matter.
Anyway I ‘over thought’ this whole post and still think the same. Dumb cunt, get some condoms. Full stop.